Wednesday, March 20, 2013


Like many of you I, too, have experienced loss.  It just seems it's touched my life directly or indirectly lately and it occurred to me that perhaps this is something we needed to talk about. This blog is specifically concerned with loss in the form of death.

I suppose there are differing degrees of loss and grief based on one's relationship and also, I believe, your particular emotional makeup. But it is loss nonetheless and as someone once said, "death is a part of life."  At the tender age of 67 it really hits me hard when someone equally as 'young' is suddenly taken from the landscape, someone that I have known and it
causes me to think, 'there but for the grace of God go I.' 

A month ago I found out that a relative had just ceased to exist at least that's how it seemed, one minute you were talking to that person and the next they were gone.  Last Sunday someone who had been part of a Bible Study my husband and I had been involved in was mentioned in the Sunday prayers, or rather her family was to comfort them in the loss of her. She was a few years older than I but she might have been the same age, I don't know.  The point is I knew nothing about the cancer she had been fighting for the last year.

More and more I hear about what seems like so many, suddenly being diagnosed with cancer or Alzheimer's or what have you.  These instances are far too frequent and it does give a person pause, to say the least.  Nobody knows when their number is up. It could be ten years from now or NOW.  You just never know.  That's why we must live each day as if it were our last, relishing every moment, every loved one, every sunrise. 

And let's not forget the pets in our lives.  If you've never owned a pet you can't possibly know how deep a bond develops between an owner and his pet.  Consequently, when they become ill and are beyond the scope of veterinary influence and need to be humanely euthanized, it is a painful decision that ultimately becomes a longtime loss.  They are 'members of your family' and that relationship is indescribable.

Loss is a horrible reality of life but, unfortunately, is part of life.  My intention with this blog was not to be morose, quite the contrary.  Rather it was it was a subject I have recently dealt with and I just wanted to share my thoughts.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013


Tonight I wanted to share the following poem with you as it was all I could think of to do when I learned of a couple in our extended relation, both of whom are dealing with this disgusting, cruel, heartless, horrible,( I could go on and on) disease of cancer. It's true that many strides have been made in its treatment but I'm sure nobody would argue that what we really need is a cure.

Cancer comes out of nowhere oft times, catches us unaware and certainly unprepared at its arrival. It's a very personal struggle for all of us as people we know or people in our families are stricken with cancer. I can't imagine anyone who doesn't know of someone who is dealing or has dealt with some aspect of cancer, some friend, some relative, someone that has had or does have cancer. The couple I referred to have differing types of cancer but cancer none the less and when one partner is stricken it'd be nice if the other was able to be cancerless, strong, supportive. These two are extremely strong and exceptionally committed to another and come what may they are truly there for each other. Their strength comes not only from their love for each other but from the source of all strength, Jesus Christ. I often wonder what people who have no relationship with God do at a time like this, when this devastating disease permeates their lives. How blessed are we who do.

by Patty Lynn

How is it that we have so much
To deal with, Lord, today?
We know you never promised us
You'd keep the worst at bay

But we're so overwhelmed right now,
We're turning, Lord, to you.
Please give us strength to face it all.
We don't know what to do.

We know it's true that life's not fair,
And both of us concur.
This latest blow's not fair at all,
What's normal's just a blur.

We're thankful that you've given us
Each other for this fight.
We're not alone and with your help,
You'll help us find the light.

The tunnel's dark, we'll lose our way
If you're not by our side.
We've got to feel your presence, Lord.
In you we must abide.

Now hand in hand we come to you
And lay this at your feet.
With you beside,
To guard and guide,
Our strength will be complete.