Saturday, August 8, 2009


Those of you who know me, know that my sister, Jill, and I are very close. I'm so blest to live in the same city as she does and the frosting on the cake is that Jill's husband, Jim, and my husband, Frank, get along very well. So it's safe to say that the four of us are best friends as well as relatives.

In addition to this, I've been fortunate to have another sister, a sister by accident you could say, in my husband's sister who everyone calls, Lolly. Where it was an added bonus for me to have another sister, I was the only sister Lolly ever had. As the years have gone by I have grown to love and respect this sweet, selfless person both for the person she is as well as the incredible way she cared for her parents until they left this world.

As those of you who have followed this blog know, my husband's father died less than two years ago and my mother-in-law passed just a week or so ago. We've all taken the loss of my husband's mom pretty hard but none so hard as the person who lived with and cared for both her parents through their the failing health 24/7. That's a level of dedication, commitment and love that is beyond words and so as I worry about how his mom's death is effecting my husband, I am most concerned and prayerful for my other "sister," Lolly. And so, as is so often the case, I wrote my "sis" a poem just especially for her.

by Patty Lynn

I've been so blest to gain in you
A sister and a friend,
A special gift, a tender heart,
I'll cherish to the end.

I wish so I could be with you
At this traumatic time,
Somehow I'd find the words to say,
Not eloquent, but mine.

'Cause sisters stick together,
They share the ups and downs
And all the in between stuff,
Make smiles out of frowns.

But even love cannot erase
The sorrow in your heart.
For now the one thing I can do
Is try to be a part...

Of what you're feeling with this loss,
Provide a shoulder's strength,
Just listen or just cry a bit
Or sob today at length.

For you have lost you Mother/friend
I know that kind of fear...
To face the world without her there
And wish that she were near.

For you've been taking care of her
But when those duties cease,
An emptiness of purpose leaves
Replaced with quiet, peace.

I know you'll find that silent house
Too much for you to bear,
But give it time and family
And always be aware...

Of how you're loved and cared about
And wished a healed heart.
And then, with time, you'll come to see
A new direction start.

So please remember I'll be there
To listen, cry and guide,
And with me comes the Lord above,
We'll both be at your side.

So take the time you need to grieve
And know I'm here for you.
Your sister and your confidant
Together we'll get through.

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