Sunday, June 28, 2009

HOW WE SEE OURSELVES

Whenever I hear this phrase I immediately remember my mother-in-law saying goodbye after a visit. She didn't visit more than once-a-year so when her summer visit was over she'd say,"Goodbye until we see ourselves!" A unique way to put it, don't you think? Well, the deeper issue is one that effects us all, how we see ourselves and how others see us. There are some who say they don't care what others think about them but, frankly, when I hear that said, I don't believe it for a second. Self image has a lot to do with self-confidence in my belief and that was something I took very seriously with raising my children. The world contributes its share of
superficial self image, it's interpretation of beauty and how we can achieve it. The "perfect" body proportions (whether you're male or female), the right clothes, the right hair style, the use of makeup for women, and the list of exterior perfections goes on and on and what do we have to show for it. In my opinion: anorexia, bulimia, over spending to follow the current fashion trends,
criticism of others, cliques, and a general unkindness toward those that "don't measure up."

The person who coined the expression that "beauty is only skin deep" really said a mouthful. Equally wise was the one that goes, "it's what's on the inside that counts!" But so often these things fall by the wayside. It's easy to miss this in today's society when we're surrounded by medias constant visuals on TV, in movies and in magazines. Pretty soon we start thinking that this is the true measure of beauty.

That brings back another memory from the past. It was an episode of Twilight Zone. All the charters were hideous in their appearance and the camera, that is, the viewer's perspective, gave the impression that we were the "patient" that all these ugly doctors and nurses were hovering over. Their comments were concerned about "us" as they looked down at us and each one was more appalled by "our" appearance. As the audience, the feeling was that they were looking at a plastic surgery gone wrong and as the audience we couldn't help think, "if these homely on-lookers think that "we"are grotesque, then "we" must look even worse than they do. It really was a fascinating and creative story and we sat there waiting until the very end when the "patient" (we) were revealed. I don't know if everybody else was shocked, but I sure was. When the camera changed position and we finally got a look there was an absolutely gorgeous women. I know at my house there was a collective "huh?" But what a dramatic way to prove that beauty does lie in the eye of the beholder and "perfection", well, you get the picture.

I've always hated the word perfection because as a Christian this was only applicable when one was referring to God. We can't begin to achieve perfection. We can, however, do our best to be the best reflection of His perfection by working on the "inside" of who we are. Don't get me wrong. I believe in looking my best, I advocate cleanliness, and I have been known to have my hair done and my nails polished. But, mostly I advocate being the best human being I can be by taking good care of my "self" and caring for my fellowman and woman. And I always believe that part of that is doing my very best at whatever it is I'm doing. I believe that we know in our heart when we have done a good job and furthermore, we can't depend on someone else's evaluation of what we've done to determine our feeling of success. And that's where confidence comes from.

How we see ourselves is key to how we move forward in our lives and accomplishments. When you look at yourself in the mirror is the person looking back someone you admire or "just another pretty face?"

1 comment:

Jill said...

Ver well stated. I DO remember that episode of Twilight Zone; it was interesting, and shocking at the end. Thanks for reminding me!